5-Star Xtreme anti-bacterial hand cleaner is the best I've found.
It's a lavender color (that's "light purple" in man-speak)
has grit, and smells like bubble gum.
I guess it would be intended for a "bodyshop" market, as are most other 5-Star products.
Just get some red paint on your hands, then try to clean that up with laquer thinner. You'll see red pigment in EVERY nook, crack, and cranny ... and your hands will be *so* dry.
Now get some of this hand cleaner out. ALL of the pigment comes right up with very little effort, it rinses right off, and you hands look, feel, and smell great!
Diesel engine oil is also nasty like that. VERY hard to get your hands clean with most hand cleaners and soaps. No problem with this stuff!
It's not usually stocked in NAPA stores, but it is in ours.
Yup, it's great stuff for us "lily-white partsman hands" types ...