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08-06-2003, 01:25 PM
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A Mothers Nightmare!!!!!!!!!!
My little man is growing up !!! I was cleaning his room .. I FOUND NUDIE PICS!!!!!! ahhhhh!!!!!!!!!!! Ok .. Im over it .. sorta .. kinda... ok .. Im not! Of course .. he was standing right there.. what was I to say .. nothing .. I felt like a deer in the headlights! He grabbed them outta my hands.. and said .. Just be happy I'm not gay!!! What are you suppose to say to that!! Your right I did ... DAD!!!!!!!! its time for father and son to have a talk.
He is only 11! I am not ready for him to grow up yet.... Do I let go ? or do I just let it pass and hope its just a phase! All my hubby said was"thats my boy" MEN! pup 
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08-06-2003, 02:23 PM
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Wellllll...... Ummmmm. What can a guy say. He's a normal Canadian male child. ( That felt wierd saying Canadian instead of American Ha!)Maybe a good bit young for that sort of thing but at least the kid had a good point. Just wait til his hormones kick in , mom!
 
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08-06-2003, 02:43 PM
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Dont make him feel to embaresed.
Thats normal for an 11 year old. Just wait till you walk in on him, well, just wait. lol. HG
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08-06-2003, 02:48 PM
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well i guess you cant argue with his logic,i was only about ten when i noticed girls were generally cleaner,softer, and prettier than my buddies.i still wasn't ready to let them (girls) know yet.but i sure wanted to know what they looked like (or would look like).i dont think you have much to worry about yet, he's still just a kid, he's now just a kid who found out what his special purpose is.....lol mike
yeah hemmie, wait till she catches him flogging the one eyed dummy, ha! ha! hey pup, do you know what the visual aids are for?????? lol mike
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08-06-2003, 03:03 PM
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I sure wouldn't just let it pass. If it was my household a little reprimand would be in order after a long lecture and if it happened again....well lets just say it had better not happen again!!!!!
Kevin
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08-06-2003, 04:22 PM
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ahh good times. reminds me when that happened to me...not too cool. he probubly feels embarrassed when hes around u now lol dont worry about it, u cant really prevent it
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08-06-2003, 04:28 PM
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Now's the time to do some real parenting.
 Great teaching opportunity. YOU and your husband talk to him, calmly and factually, showing him that it isn't 'evil' but there is a moral aspect that he must adhere to because he is dealing with the most powerful aspect of life a human will ever deal with.Incidentally, you have a very smart son. That was an AWESOME retort he came up with!! I sure wouldn't have thought that quickly on my feet.
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08-06-2003, 05:30 PM
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Thats my boy.
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Outlawed tunes from outlawed pipes
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08-06-2003, 05:59 PM
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I wouldnt be too hard on him. If you tell him its a bad thing and really get on his case then he will soon be looking for information elsewhere.
If he is having the mags in the house then teach him what is good and bad about everything out there. teach him the difference between tasteful and just pure smut. He will not be so quick to judge women by how they look undressed, Teach him its just a package that the mind comes in. In this day and age the way people dress is sure to mess with a young mind. With more ads showing scantly clad women sometimes not wearing much more than a smile and a bit of shaving cream it gets them thinking. Just flick thru the channels on a TV now a days and it will show you how sex sells everything. Shows like Baywatch leave nothing to the imagination, And that is primetime. Many people young and old want to see just what lurks just below the beltline of those hip huggers and crop tops.
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08-06-2003, 05:59 PM
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 Not sure what to do with THAT one!! All I can say is that I'm glad that's at least 5 years away for me.....I hope. Jeez  That was a good comeback though, ya gotta admit! And the guys have a point, there's not much you can do about it, except teach him respect. On the up side of things he's probably REALLY embarrassed that you caught him, so he'll be a very good boy for awhile.  GOOD LUCK!! Chickie.
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08-06-2003, 06:28 PM
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Quote:
One week working on the car and already looking for a way to fill the passenger seat!
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08-06-2003, 08:48 PM
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I'm 17, and if you found me looking at that, and you wanted to get a point across, I would tell your husband, his father, to talk to him. Me and my dad are cool like that, we talk about stuff like that. No big deal. But I wouldn't even want to mention stuff like that with my mom. That's embarrassing.
So just get the dad to talk to him. No big deal, he's a boy (like me ). Buy him a Corvette and he'll forget all about it.  
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08-06-2003, 10:41 PM
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i started M.Bing when i was 8 years old. had victoria secret catalogs at the time. i never had any "birds and bees" talk with anyone. and i think i turned out fine. but i do have a bad porn addiction. oh well.
i wouldn't say anything to him but, maybe start a little early on the use of condoms. my friend had his first at the age of 12. just a thought.
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08-06-2003, 11:01 PM
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yowsa!
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08-07-2003, 12:46 AM
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Similar situation in my household...My Son(11 yrs) and my daughter(6 yrs) share a computer of their own with 'net access. Well about once a week I clean out their history and temp files for them to keep from junk building up on the HardDrive. A couple of weeks ago I was cleaning out their PC and ran across some very interesting sites
My son had a friend stay the night a few nights before and they decided to go exploring the various aspects of internet access. They happened across about 8-10 FREE porn sites(I can't even find those ). I asked my boy what the deal was and he told me that him and his friend were curious and went looking. NOW, let me tell you that my son is a little more ahead of the other boys when it comes to that type of stuff.He did not lie to me about it and I didn't make a big deal out of it...I just told him that I didn't want to see that kind of stuff on his PC again...especially because his little sis uses the same PC as him(If she saw that...woohoo...not good). I have the attitude that if you make a big deal out of it and yell/scream at him and tell him that it is BAD then he will go and find out for himself, whether you like it or not. I am very open about anything with my kids, all they have to do is ask me about anything and I will explain to them the right/wrong of the subject. They both get good grades and do not get into trouble, and they are really honest with us about everything. It is when you tell them that something is bad and they can't do something is when they do it behind your back on their own. Nothing is tempting when it is in the open...when it is forbidden it is inevitable what will happen. Whatever you do...DO NOT tell him that it is BAD or EVIL to explore his sexual desires...that could lead to a whole other 'can of worms'. If you DO happen to walk in on him, just remember that HE was in private and you walked in on HIM....it'll happen sometime, I'm sure. Remember one thing that his Dad was once the same boy that your son is now. I better stop now.... Later, WEIMER
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