Using a torque wrench is probably an extreme rarity. Most everybody just sucked them up tight by feel with a socket handle, and then tightened
to the next cotter hole.
The biggest falacy I have found is that lots of people believe that the rubber bushings inner metal sleeve should be pivoting on the bolt. The sleeve is there to prevent overcompression of the rubbers. All pivot action is in the rubber, not the sleeve turning.
Also be sure to torque the "rubber" bushings with the suspension at normal ride height, not extended.